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November 23rd, 6:48 am

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November 20th, 4:53 pm

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November 19th, 6:28 am

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FREEDOM is…knowing God’s Got This. It’s my daughter’s birthday today. She’s turning a third decade! She and her sister will forever be treasures to my husband and me. We are proud of them, and thankful to God that they launched valiantly, with courage and intelligence and love in their hearts, and are both successfully “adulting.” We tried our best to give them each two gifts to last a lifetime: 1) Roots. 2) Wings. Now as Empty Nesters, we miss the laughter and the tears under our own roof, but we have released them to their own choices, their own tribes. And we know, God (or however you define your Higher Power) has got this. There’s no better parent who loves them any more, through family and friends and birthdays and roots and wings. I hope this helps, - STHolt ... See MoreSee Less
FREEDOM is…knowing God’s Got This.  It’s my daughter’s birthday today.  She’s turning a third decade!  She and her sister will forever be treasures to my husband and me.  We are proud of them, and thankful to God that they launched valiantly, with courage and intelligence and love in their hearts, and are both successfully “adulting.”  We tried our best to give them each two gifts to last a lifetime:  1) Roots.  2) Wings.  Now as Empty Nesters, we miss the laughter and the tears under our own roof, but we have released them to their own choices, their own tribes. And we know, God (or however you define your Higher Power) has got this. There’s no better parent who loves them any more, through family and friends and birthdays and roots and wings.  I hope this helps, - STHolt

November 12th, 6:21 am

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FREEDOM is…BEING FREE TO BE WHO YOU ALREADY ARE: Today is my husband’s birthday! We often laugh about being “of a certain age.” But there is freedom in embracing our age. The older we get, the more eternity becomes our vision, not the right-here-and-now. There’s always joy and suffering and lots of life going on, but ultimately, we have a growing awareness that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” for a certain set of works that God crafted for us before time began, and we are just living that out. We are growing toward our purpose, keeping our vision up and away from getting buried in the weeds. Our identity is first as a child of God. He loves us for who we already are, not who He wishes we would be. Let’s extend that grace to not only others, but ourselves. I hope this helps you find peace and purpose, at any age!
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FREEDOM is…BEING FREE TO BE WHO YOU ALREADY ARE:  Today is my husband’s birthday!  We often laugh about being “of a certain age.” But there is freedom in embracing our age.   The older we get, the more eternity becomes our vision, not the right-here-and-now.  There’s always joy and suffering and lots of life going on, but ultimately, we have a growing awareness that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” for a certain set of works that God crafted for us before time began, and we are just living that out.  We are growing toward our purpose, keeping our vision up and away from getting buried in the weeds. Our identity is first as a child of God.  He loves us for who we already are, not who He wishes we would be.  Let’s extend that grace to not only others, but ourselves.  I hope this helps you find peace and purpose, at any age!

November 4th, 6:00 am

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FREEDOM is: “USING YOUR WORDS” – to manage those BIG feelings! “Using your words” is a sign of maturity -that we can process our feelings, but not be mastered by them. We as adults need to model this for kids, and it’s essential to teach it whenever we can. But how EARLY can we start? Be inspired by my friend’s amusing story about her one-year old granddaughter (let’s call her Amy). My friend is on the phone with her daughter who is feeding Amy in her highchair. The child has taken to screaming for more food! (Sound familiar?) So my friend hears her daughter calmly say: “Say More Please” and waits. Amy screams again. She has no words! But Mom repeats her quiet direction and waits. Amy screams again. Silence. Then…magically, the baby says something like “moh,” and out comes the spoon! Amy was immediately rewarded for “using her words” before she even HAS words! This kind of early teaching and calm consistency in boundaries is evidence of a parent with both compassion and common sense, who will pass it on to her children. Don’t be afraid to set healthy boundaries, balanced with lots of love, whenever a teachable moment presents itself. I hope this helps! ... See MoreSee Less
FREEDOM is: “USING YOUR WORDS” – to manage those BIG feelings!  “Using your words” is a sign of maturity -that we can process our feelings, but not be mastered by them.  We as adults need to model this for kids, and it’s essential to teach it whenever we can.  But how EARLY can we start?  Be inspired by my friend’s amusing story about her one-year old granddaughter (let’s call her Amy).  My friend is on the phone with her daughter who is feeding Amy in her highchair.  The child has taken to screaming for more food! (Sound familiar?)  So my friend hears her daughter calmly say:  “Say More Please” and waits.  Amy screams again.  She has no words!  But Mom repeats her quiet direction and waits.  Amy screams again. Silence.  Then…magically,  the baby says something like “moh,” and out comes the spoon!  Amy was immediately rewarded for “using her words” before she even HAS words! This kind of early teaching and calm consistency in boundaries is evidence of a parent with both compassion and common sense, who will pass it on to her children.   Don’t be afraid to set healthy boundaries, balanced with lots of love, whenever a teachable moment presents itself.  I hope this helps!

October 7th, 1:32 pm

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It’s a new week! FREEDOM is… “WHAT IS CALLED FOR IN THIS MOMENT?” We all do too much. We take a weird kind of pride in being too busy. It’s an impossible pace that we pass down to our kids. It takes our joy and shortens our lives! I was chatting with a friend who learned this one simple but powerful tool, and now I use it every day. When you’re panicked and thinking “I just can’t do it all,” the answer is, “What is called for in THIS moment?” Breathe. Focus in, and just do that one thing. I hope it helps. - S.Holt ... See MoreSee Less
It’s a new week!  FREEDOM is…  “WHAT IS CALLED FOR IN THIS MOMENT?” We all do too much.  We take a weird kind of pride in being too busy.  It’s an impossible pace that we pass down to our kids.  It takes our joy and shortens our lives! I was chatting with a friend who learned this one simple but powerful tool, and now I use it every day. When you’re panicked and thinking “I just can’t do it all,”  the answer is, “What is called for in THIS moment?”  Breathe.  Focus in, and just do that one thing.   I hope it helps. - S.Holt

September 22nd, 7:22 pm

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Hi friends! Richmond Family Magazine’s Expo was a blast! Please like and share so that we can be there for parents and teachers in your world. Thank you! ... See MoreSee Less

September 7th, 6:39 am

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Thanks Tom for all you do to help families and children through high school, college, and life! And now ... See MoreSee Less

September 3rd, 8:27 am

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MUTE YOUR TECH, NOT YOUR KIDS: Many years ago, when my dad saw me standing in the doorway of his bedroom while he was trying to enjoy a hard-earned break watching a tv show, he IMMEDIATELY muted the TV, turned and said, “What do you need?” He never said “Wait till I see the end of this show, okay?” Mind you, these were the days before we could record every show and playback the part we missed! If he didn’t get to see how the Good Guys beat the Bad Guys after investing 55 minutes in a show, that was fine with him. I was more important. My dad listened. Let’s put our show and our devices on MUTE. Let’s turn toward our kids and be present when they need to connect with us: eye-to-eye, face-to-face and heart-to-heart. ... See MoreSee Less
MUTE YOUR TECH, NOT YOUR KIDS:  Many years ago, when my dad saw me standing in the doorway of his bedroom while he was trying to enjoy a hard-earned break watching a tv show, he IMMEDIATELY muted the TV, turned and said, “What do you need?”  He never said “Wait till I see the end of this show, okay?”  Mind you, these were the days before we could record every show and playback the part we missed!  If he didn’t get to see how the Good Guys beat the Bad Guys after investing 55 minutes in a show, that was fine with him.  I was more important.  My dad listened.  Let’s put our show and our devices on MUTE. Let’s turn toward our kids and be present when they need to connect with us: eye-to-eye, face-to-face and heart-to-heart.

August 26th, 3:14 pm

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August 17th, 5:29 am

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WAS IT GOD, OR TEDDY ROOSEVELT? Brene Brown says this quote changed her life: “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man (or woman) who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” I think it was both. (For more brave vulnerability, see Brene Brown’s Netflix Special “Call to Courage”) ... See MoreSee Less

August 6th, 11:01 am

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Be empowered as a parent! See this quick clip from Mia White's parenting wisdom. Join us August 12 for an online workshop with another EPS Parent Coach, Meg Zehmer! ... See MoreSee Less

June 10th, 2:57 pm

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Great interview with Ryan Dobson (James's son) on the 7 types of relationships (the Seven "C's"), the importance of getting relational "nutrients" from others to heal, restore and grow, and how to find a Life Team...it's more than God, your spouse and your Labrador! ... See MoreSee Less

May 19th, 4:14 pm

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BREATHING IS BECOMING BLASÉ. OH NO! As a parent coach, I’m beginning to see a trend: Mindfulness breathing is getting a bad rap with kids! Parents tell me their children say, “No, I will NOT breathe!” What’s going on with this amazingly effective tool? I think we’ve all done such a good job of saying “Breathe!” to help our kids calm down that we’ve forgotten they can’t hear us when they are in limbic hijack mode. If we demand “Breathe” when our kids are distressed, it’s the same as yelling “Calm Down!” (remember “Serenity Now!” Seinfeld-fans?) and who likes to hear that when we are anything BUT calm? Your child may need to smash up some Play Do or run around the yard! You may find that some emotion coaching is called for to help your child breathe. Try something like “Wow- you seem really mad!” or “You really hated losing that game, didn’t you?” or “You’re angry at your best friend for sending that text. I get that!” Then breathe. Talk. Together. ... See MoreSee Less
BREATHING IS BECOMING BLASÉ.  OH NO! As a parent coach, I’m beginning to see a trend: Mindfulness breathing is getting a bad rap with kids!  Parents tell me their children say, “No, I will NOT breathe!” What’s going on with this amazingly effective tool?   I think we’ve all done such a good job of saying “Breathe!” to help our kids calm down that we’ve forgotten they can’t hear us when they are in limbic hijack mode.  If we demand “Breathe” when our kids are distressed, it’s the same as yelling “Calm Down!” (remember “Serenity Now!” Seinfeld-fans?) and who likes to hear that when we are anything BUT calm?  Your child may need to smash up some Play Do or run around the yard!  You may find that some emotion coaching is called for to help your child breathe. Try something like “Wow- you seem really mad!” or “You really hated losing that game, didn’t you?”  or “You’re angry at your best friend for sending that text.  I get that!”  Then breathe.  Talk.  Together.

May 19th, 4:13 pm

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A LOVING BOUNDARY CAN FEEL TERRIBLE NOW, BUT TERRIFIC LATER. I was driving downtown Richmond and found myself really confused. I turned right and a horn blared, long and hard. I was facing another car hood-to-hood on a one-way street, the wrong way. My heart stopped! I felt awful! But that horn was a boundary that saved me and saved the other driver too. If you are being abused in a relationship, or manipulated, or find that your children constantly pull you into power plays, or you are simply in need of a re-set, set a healthy boundary. You can be firm, but respectful. With a child, it’s character-building! With a family member or co-worker -or your boss - it’s affirmation that you want the relationship to be a healthy one. Have the hard talk, get the help, stop the abuse and save yourself, or someone you love. ... See MoreSee Less
A LOVING BOUNDARY CAN FEEL TERRIBLE NOW, BUT TERRIFIC LATER.  I was driving downtown Richmond and found myself really confused.  I turned right and a horn blared, long and hard.  I was facing another car hood-to-hood on a one-way street, the wrong way.  My heart stopped! I felt awful!  But that horn was a boundary that saved me and saved the other driver too.  If you are being abused in a relationship, or manipulated, or find that your children constantly pull you into power plays, or you are simply in need of a re-set, set a healthy boundary.  You can be firm, but respectful.  With a child, it’s character-building!  With a family member or co-worker -or your boss -  it’s affirmation that you want the relationship to be a healthy one.  Have the hard talk, get the help, stop the abuse and save yourself, or someone you love.

May 11th, 10:30 am

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This is TOO FUNNY! A light-hearted look at the world of MOMs everywhere! Have a laugh and hug someone who loves you back- mom or not! ... See MoreSee Less
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ANXIOUS? USE THE FORCE! Rene Jain, my favorite anxiety specialist and author of “GoZen!” says Star Wars is really a movie about Mindfulness. “Search your feelings, Luke.” Teach your children (and remind yourself) that all feelings are acceptable, but all behaviors are not. See Jain’s two minute video here, explore her wonderful GoZen! materials, and- I have to say it - MAY the FOURTH be with you! youtu.be/9WdMvkctKEo ... See MoreSee Less
ANXIOUS?  USE THE FORCE! Rene Jain, my favorite anxiety specialist and author of “GoZen!” says Star Wars is really a movie about Mindfulness.  “Search your feelings, Luke.”  Teach your children (and remind yourself)  that all feelings are acceptable, but all behaviors are not. See Jain’s two minute video here, explore her wonderful GoZen! materials, and-  I have to say it - MAY the FOURTH be with you! https://youtu.be/9WdMvkctKEo

April 22nd, 9:12 am

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I WAS DROWNING. Or at least I thought I was. I was ten and had been sailing in an ocean bay with a friend for the first time. We had NO idea what we were doing. We ran into – something! - and the mast broke. I fell overboard. As the waves dunked me over and over again, I kicked and swallowed salt water until I saw a strong hand reaching out for me. It was my friend’s father, an experienced sailor and at that time, my savior. I was so relieved that I completely relaxed and held on tightly. I remember being somewhat incredulous and even offended that he yelled at me! What was he saying? “Kick” and “You gotta help me get you into the boat!” Of course I did! One of the Ten Laws of Boundaries (Dr. John Townsend) is “The Law of Activity.” We are grateful for support, wisdom, God’s intervention, but at the same time we need to own our situation and take initiative. Encourage your children: when they feel they are “drowning” with schoolwork, friendships, family troubles, take initiative, work hard, and take ownership of their part so they can get back in the boat- but knowing the whole time that YOUR hand is there, stretched out for them to grasp. ... See MoreSee Less
I WAS DROWNING.  Or at least I thought I was.  I was ten and had been sailing in an ocean bay with a friend for the first time.  We had NO idea what we were doing.  We ran into – something! - and the mast broke.  I fell overboard.  As the waves dunked me over and over again, I kicked and swallowed salt water until I saw a strong hand reaching out for me.  It was my friend’s father, an experienced sailor and at that time, my savior.  I was so relieved that I completely relaxed and held on tightly.  I remember being somewhat incredulous and even offended that he yelled at me!  What was he saying? “Kick” and “You gotta help me get you into the boat!”  Of course I did!  One of the Ten Laws of Boundaries (Dr. John Townsend) is “The Law of Activity.”  We are grateful for support, wisdom, God’s intervention, but at the same time we need to own our situation and take initiative.  Encourage your children:  when they feel they are “drowning” with schoolwork, friendships, family troubles, take initiative, work hard, and take ownership of their part so they can get back in the boat- but knowing the whole time that YOUR hand is there, stretched out for them to grasp.
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